It is an absolute horrible time to become an adult and have to step out into the world, but every young person has the ability to nail it. Being an adult means choosing a mask, slapping on that mask every day and presenting yourself to the world. And never be afraid to change that mask. You can be whomever you want to be. The possibilities are unlimited. Nobody really knows how to be an adult and there is no right way to do it. First up, find your safe place. The place where you can always be you. You can relax. Maybe a grandmother or your parents', or an aunt. Whomever it is with, make sure the person is non judgemental. And does not push you. You will make mistakes. We all do. Treat them as learning experiences. If you learn from them, then they aren't mistakes. Always, always take care of you. Put yourself first. I don't mean be cruel nor mean, but taking care of your mental and physical health is for you. No one else, just you. Want to look glamorous, do it for you. Never ever let anyone else dictate what you should wear, how you should look, how you should talk, where you should work. Those are your decisions and yours alone. On relationships, if you are in a relationship or considering a relationship, make sure that person is your partner. You want someone who will build a life with you, who will always support you and be your biggest cheerleader. And you return the favor. Never, ever cheat. If the relationship is not working, walk away. Life is too short to stay in a relationship that is not working and cheating hurts your partner and it is something they never really get over. Never stay in a toxic relationship. Never. Don't walk away, run away. Watch for the red flags. If he or she tries to cut you off from your friends or family, red flag. If someone laughs at your problems, red flag. If someone lies to you, red flag. Hone you skills in seeing those people. If you are confident in yourself, it will be harder for someone to fool you. It can still happen, but not as easily. And never, ever fall for charm. Charm is fine, but if that is all a person has, you don't need them. Don't ever support a freeloader. If he/she can't pull their weight, you don't need them. March to your own drummer. Never care what people think of you. That is none of your business. What is important is what you think of yourself.
Build your character. Examples Joe Biden and Jill Biden. Both are caring. Both look outside themselves. Both try to do the most good they can. Who not to be: Trump, Putin, Lauren Bobert, Marjorie Taylor Green. These are extreme examples, but there are others that are not extreme. What I am trying to tell you is build a character that you will be proud of, a character that when you are old, you can look back and say that you were the best person you could be. You will get hurt. It will feel like you are dying. You won't. You will pick yourself up and jump back into the game a little wiser and a little more cautious. But you will get up and move forward. Don't be the people you are seeing in politics today. Many, many of them are empty vessels, totally selfish, no compassion, no empathy. Don't be like those people. And don't gossip. Gossip hurts and is mean and serves no purpose. So just don't do it.
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