continued to adult 101

Choosing what mask to wear in adulthood is sometimes difficult to decided on.  You need to make sure you are confident in who you are.  If you lack that self confidence, they there are those that will prey on you.  If you are entering into a relationship and your significant other  displays signs of manipulation, or control, run. Let's say that he/she always criticizes your friends.  Red flag.  He/she tries to isolate you from your friends and family, red flag.  He/she tries to make you feel guilty for going out with your friends, or buying something with your money, or at any time spending you money as you see fit, red flag.  If he/she makes fun of you in front of others, calling you stupid or dumb, red flag.  Never, ever tolerate a slam on your character.  And if he or she ever hits you, book it out that door and don't look back.  Nobody, nobody has a right to hit you ever.  If you have a good relationship with your family and they are uneasy about the person you are dating, listen to them.  Others will see things you miss.  So always listen.  Evaluate.  And decide if they are right.  Do not ever turn a blind eye to red flags.  They will only get worse.  I just read a story about how a husband changed the name of their first born on the birth certificate to make his parents happy.  Big, huge red flag.  Your significant other, if it is a healthy relationship, will always put you first.  He/she will never let their parents come before you.  They will be able to tell their parents to butt out.  If they can't, then you don't need them.  Be strong and self confident in who you are.  You will thank yourself down the road.